I just reread what I wrote, and I realized it sounds judgmental even though I didn’t mean for it to sound that way. My apologies.
I’m still new enough that I remember how I felt when I got answers to questions that seemed counterintuitive. I didn’t want to argue with or disagree with forum members who were trying to help me, and I didn’t want them to get frustrated or feel disrespected. BUT I couldn’t wrap my brain around the things they were telling me at first.
My VFT was very green and still had new traps. It had survived from October to February and limped along for a bit after if I recall. I thought it looked healthy. By normal plant standards that would most likely be true in most cases. It was hard to understand how it could be light starved. A lot of typicals sold in stores can have pics on the packaging that show very green plants as well, and the instructions they give can be far different than the advice you get here.
So it felt like I was fighting the people who answered all my questions, and it wasn’t just to be a pain or rude. I’d ask the same questions in different ways because I thought for sure I was just saying something wrong and people were misunderstanding what I was asking. But I really wanted to do the best for my VFT (which I indeed named lol and have a bunch that I thought of names for now as well), and ir had stayed alive for longer than any plant I had ever had, so it was important to me to keep it alive if I could. I wasn’t able to with that one because it was so light starved with semi erratic care because I kept changing watering schedules to see if that helped, and it had a huge flower stalk that I had missed for some time, so now I very well might be able to save a plant in those conditions, but then I was just confused. I moved it around a lot too trying to get the “best” indoor conditions thinking I was the reason it hadn’t yet died when it was really just using all the energy it had stored from the sun it got the previous year, and it was slowly but steadily wearing down as that pool of energy ran down.
So I think it’s a pretty common occurrence that a lot of us have similar experiences and due to preconceived notions about “normal” plants and advice from people we know who have a ridiculous amount of experience with plants in general and further from the misinformation that is on the internet and sometimes the instructions that came with the plant, it’s fairly normal for us to go through this process.
BUT the faster you get passed it and follow the care advice from the threads on it and from the people here, the faster your plants will get better. I have a decent amount of plants now, but I stuck with just typical VFTs from Lowe’s and a ping for awhile. I just got my first cultivars about a month ago, and I got a couple plants that weren’t VFTs. I still end up with a decent amount of questions about things, but the difference is that I know to listen to folks on here and incorporate their advice as soon as I can. My plants are doing great, but it’s not because of me, it’s because I started trusting people here on advice.
As a quick last thing (I am deeply sorry for the length of this
) sometimes the forums can move a little slower like the weekends, but most of the people who actively post are experienced and if someone like me gives advice that may leave out something important or is just flat wrong, I will be corrected fairly quickly. I was worried about getting bad advice and no one noticing, but if you give it a bit someone will notice and speak up. And you will get used to seeing the same names pop up that you will find are the experienced people. I lurk a lot for information too.
Again sorry for the length of this, but I figured sharing might help you understand a bit better that a lot of us have been where you are, but the faster you can get yourself to the point where you are following advice from experienced growers, the faster your plants will get better.
(And don’t miss the post above mine because Cpgrower did give great advice as usual)
Keep your head up! Comin at ya from zone 6a