Steve_M wrote:but what if the roots have already penetrated the peat moss? how am i supposed to get it off and add perlite or whatever aswel?
fraid of breaking the roots mainly
I don't want to give advice that makes you feel bad if you lose the plant, but if it were my plant, this is what I would do at this time--
I would uproot it from the container before new leaves begin to grow well: better now than later when it is trying to reestablish itself.
I would remove whatever growing medium is easy to remove, then place the entire plant and rootball in rainwater or distilled water and agitate and shake it enough to loosen the remaining growing medium. I would try to remove as much as I can but without picking too much what still clings to the roots. At this point is when you could notice how good the underground parts of the plant look, and judge whether you think it might have a chance at regrowing and becoming healthy again.
Then I would place the plant and roots in a large bowl or bucket of dryish new medium composed of 50-60% sphagnum peat moss and 40-50% silica sand and/or perlite, and flick the material all over the wet roots to stick to them and separate them somewhat. Then I would moisten the growing media a little so that it is crumbly and sticks together a little, and I would repot the plant into a generous sized new container with plenty of room for the roots in depth.
Then in the new airier, more well drained mixture, the plant may revive and eventually thrive. Right now it looks like it's set up to possibly rot from anaerobic decomposition (too saturated and soggy in media that is too compacted).
That's just what I would do, judging from the photos you posted. Like I mentioned in another post, just use your best judgment.